Safety and privacy
How we keep this safe and discreet
Every part of this is built around one question: what would make a careful person feel able to try? Safety and privacy information is always free and always public.
Application review
A person reads every application before a place can be offered. We do not check identity documents and we do not run document-based age verification — everyone confirms they are 18 or older.
Declining is normal
Applications that read as pushy, unclear or coercive are declined, and we do not explain a decline in detail.
Private profiles
Nothing you tell us appears publicly. There is no browsable directory and no public guest list.
Controlled guest list
Numbers and the balance between couples and solo guests are set before places are offered.
Consent rules
Ask first, accept a no the first time, and never assume attendance implies agreement to anything.
Reporting and support
A named contact on the night, and a reporting route that stays open afterwards.
If something is wrong
You can raise a concern before, during or after an event. Reports are handled by a person, are not shared with other guests, and can be made anonymously through our contact form.
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