Most people hesitate for the same reason: not shame, but uncertainty. Who else is there? Will anyone understand what we are looking for? Between Us curates speed-dating evenings and private one-night lifestyle events. Every application is reviewed, the guest mix is balanced by hand, and your interest stays private until it is mutual.
Nothing is public, nothing is automatic, and nothing happens because a room decided for you.
You are curious, but you do not want to risk the wrong room.
You tell us who you are and what you are looking for. Privately.
We review and balance the guest mix by hand before anything is announced.
Short, guided introductions instead of an open, undefined room.
Afterwards you decide alone, or together, with no one watching.
Contact details are shared only when both sides said yes.
We run two things properly instead of ten things vaguely. Both are application-based and both begin in southern Germany.
A structured evening of short introductions. You meet everyone in the room briefly, note privately who you would like to see again, and only mutual matches receive contact.
No date announced. The date and venue follow the participant mix, not the other way round.
A limited guest list, a discreet venue and clearly stated standards. Attendance is controlled, the address is shared after approval, and nothing is expected of you once you are there.
When no event is scheduled, you can register interest instead of being sold a date that does not exist.
No membership fee, no booking fee, no commission. Organisers keep their full ticket revenue.
A short application: who is coming, your region, and what you are hoping for.
We review each application and balance couples and singles for the format.
You receive the venue and the arrangements after approval, not before.
You choose afterwards. We only pass on contact where interest is mutual.
Both are welcome, and both are curated with the same care.
Apply together, agree your boundaries before you arrive, and decide together afterwards. Nobody is asked to do anything on the evening itself.
Read the couples guide →Single women, single men, hotwives attending alone and other approved solo guests. Places are limited by format, not by gender assumptions.
Read the singles guide →Discretion is not a marketing line here. It is the structure of the product.
We confirm we are talking to real, consenting adults before anything is confirmed.
Every application is read by a person. Not everyone is accepted.
There is no public guest list and no browsable member directory.
Numbers and the couple-to-single balance are set before the evening.
No means no, once. Nobody owes anybody participation of any kind.
A named contact before, during and after every event.
Our writing exists to help you prepare, talk honestly and know what you are walking into — not to sell you a ticket.
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