For couples
Coming as a couple
Most couples arrive with two slightly different versions of the same fantasy. That is normal. The point of a curated evening is that you get to find out gently, together, with no one pushing.
Apply together
One application covers both of you. We would rather hear from both voices than from one partner speaking for two.
Shared boundaries
Agree what is fine, what is not, and what you would like to be asked first — before you arrive, not in the room.
Couple-level participation
You attend as a couple. You are never separated by the format, and no part of the evening requires you to split up.
Private decisions
Choices are made afterwards, at home. Nobody sees what you decided and nobody is told who you passed over.
No pressure
Talking all evening and going home is a completely successful evening. There is no expectation to do anything.
Mutual contact only
Contact is exchanged only where both sides chose each other.
Before and after
Preparing
Have the boring conversation early: what happens if one of you wants to leave, and what your signal is.
Afterwards
Plan the evening after the evening. Most of the real conversation happens the next day.