Consent, safety & aftercare
How consent is held before, during and after
Consent is not a checkbox. It is a shared practice couples build over time. This page describes how Between Us thinks about consent, safety and aftercare — long before any private event is ever discussed.
Ongoing, revocable consent
Consent is renewed at every stage: talking about the fantasy, agreeing to explore, agreeing to a specific setting, and agreeing to any specific act. It can be withdrawn at any moment, by either partner, without needing to justify it.
Sober, unpressured decisions
Meaningful consent requires clear judgement. Decisions about whether, when and how to explore are made sober, calmly, and outside of moments of pressure. We actively discourage "in the moment" escalation.
Boundaries as living agreements
Boundaries change. A yes today does not become a permanent yes; a no today does not become a permanent no. Couples are encouraged to revisit their agreements before and after every step.
Safety practices
Between Us encourages: honest health conversations, agreed communication signals, a clear check-in during any shared experience, private post-event reflection between partners, and a written or spoken "reset" if something felt off.
Aftercare is not optional
Whatever the shape of the experience — small, imagined, or real — the couple's connection afterwards matters more than the event itself. Aftercare is the space where trust either deepens or frays.
When something goes wrong
If a boundary is crossed or a partner feels harmed, the priority is care, not performance. Between Us will always err on the side of protecting the couple — including declining or pausing further contact when that is the right thing to do.
This is general orientation, not clinical or legal advice. Couples with specific concerns are encouraged to speak with a qualified relationship therapist.